Seminar - Joshua

 Seminar

Begin with the end in mind: What are the goals for your child?

Goals:

What should they know? 

Head: What do I want them to know when they become adults.

Heart: Who should they be? What values should they have? What are the values they should have?

Hands: What should they be able to do? What skills should they have? What are the skills they should have?

Training the Head: Help with decision-making. Help them to think critically.  Have discussion at home about the decision. Talk about he decisions and the consequences of their decisions. Then they will be able to make decision better.

And if we don’t guide them, then they will look to their peers. Peers don’t have life experiences and they might be wrong. Hence parent oriented decision making process is important.

Encourage Reflective Thinking: 

Handling Praise: The child will look for praise. And if they don’t get it from the parent, they will look for it from their friends. 

Be specific about your praise. Some of the questions to get to specifics are

  • What did you enjoy most about this process?
  • What was the hardest part?
  • How do you overcome that?

All of these questions will help them to understand that you as a parent…. You are interested in their achievements.

So when you child sees this they will reciprocate. …. Your children will listen to you.

Training the Heart

Build on values not just achievements or talent. Talent can take you far but values will keep you there.

Practice and teach Empathy: You need to get to understand their struggles and pain. It’s not just being sorry for them…. 

We throw out empathy when we are faced with competition. We compare our children with others in class. But when they can see how we as parents empathise, they do the same with their friends. People who can work with others effectively are the ones who are most successful.

Training the Hands

How to treat their bodies? We often neglect our physical health to achieve goals. Simple things like resting will help your body. There are so many people who are struggling with depression and mental issues etc

How to handle their devices? Before we can teach our children, we need to train ourselves. When the rules we set for our children and ourselves are different, there will be friction. 

Practical Life Advice: 

Reward and Celebrate the Goals

You need to find ways to celebrate achievements. Hence you need to be watchful and note the good things. And make the celebration intentional and make sure your child knows why we are celebrating 

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