TeensCamp - Ben Session1

 Ben Session 1

Important Pointers from morning session

  • You are free to choose but you are not free to choose the consequences of your choice
  • Love your neighbor as your self.... It is important to love yourself.
  • Identity (?)

Emotional Regulation

We are discussing "Emotional Regulation". What is "regulation"? It is to manage it.... You can't stop your emotions. You can hide your emotions for some time. But you can stop it. So you need to find a way to direct your emotions in the right away. Uncontrolled emotions will hurt the ones you love the most. 

Example: You are angry and someone who cares for you comes by and says, "Calm down". That may often blow the lid off on your anger. Even though you know that they are right. But you hate them for being right!

This is all the more important because 80% to 90% of our decisions are based on emotions rather than logical reasoning. 

Emotions can be anger, anxiety, happiness, fear, guilt, sadness. The wheel of emotions has a detailed listing. All of this emerges from our brain.... a chemical reaction??? 

But do we reduce the value of emotions to chemical reactions... NO!!! Why is it important?

Emotions affect our lives

Our emotions affect our decision in life. The consequences of our emotions also affect our physical body. Hence the importance of "Emotional Intelligence"

Emotions are contagioius

The emotions are you display affects the people around you. And that is why people laugh together, cry together, anxious together unless someone breaks the cycle. 

Emotional Intelligence

People who are successful in life possess a good IQ but also they have a good emotional intelligence. Emotional Intelligence helps you relate to different people. 

One of the aspects of emotional intelligence is how you deal with past experience. The negative experience is not your fault.  However, the negative experience is not a justification to act in the same negative way.  

Often they say... Hurt people hurt other people

The past experience are brought back to your memory by emotional triggers. 

Emtional triggers could be rejection, betrayal, unjust treatment, helplessness, being excluded or ignored, feeling unloved, insecurity, sickness etc. And these triggers may trigger actions. These actions could turn out negative and you direct your emotions to do the right thing. 

Here are some pointers to deal with emotional triggers

  • Find out where that emotional trigger is coming from
  • Find out why it triggered you.
  • Do something to bring out the positive. Always do the right thing. Always make meaningful changes. Unhealthy actions negatively affects you more than anybody else.

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